The laws of energy.

Aiming for what we want

The laws of energy help us get where we want to be.

Manifestation theory explained simply

In this article, I link two subjects that I work on : difficult (toxic) relationships and the subject of universal energy laws. I aim to briefly describe how energy laws can be used to raise our frequencies and regain power in a situation where we feel powerless.

I'm referring to the energy laws identified by Jan Engels-Smith, an American psychotherapist and energy therapist. You'll see how to integrate these laws into your daily life. Examples illustrate this knowledge.

The path of energy laws

0. Identify and express intentions

1. Energy follows our intentions

2. Energy multiplies where we put our attention.

3. Thought transforms, takes shape (materializes)

4.  Ideas become reality

0.            Identifying an intention

The (quantum) sciences show us that everything is energy, and energy is transformed, materialized, concretized or condensed, but never extinguished.

The key to any undertaking is to set your sights on something, to define an objective or, indeed, to express a wish or intention. Manifesting coaches often speak of 'manifesting' a desired situation.

To find your intention, you can ask yourself the following questions:

- Where should my journey take me? 

- What is my most important wish and intention?

- What is my deepest wish?

Example: Liz and Sara

Sara's best friend Liz is in a relationship with a narcissistic pervert. Her partner seeks to control and manipulate her to bind her to him. From time to time, Liz confides in her best friend about her pain and exhaustion. Even though she knows this relationship is hurting her, she stays with this man.

Sara wants Liz to consider all the aspects of her relationship and, above all, her suffering. She wants her girlfriend to open her eyes to her situation and find the strength to change it.

The intention is: I want my girlfriend to be happy, to respect herself and to be respected in her relationship.

Example: Monique

Monique is harassed at work. Her boss gives her the tasks that no one else wants to do. He expects her to work overtime evenings and weekends. What's more, she has to be available to check her e-mails during the day and evening.

Monique tried to talk to her boss about this. He was firm and refused to talk about it. He suggested she leave the company if she wasn't happy.  

After a coaching session, Monique clarified her wishes. She wants to be in a job with clear missions and limits, in an environment that respects her private life. Her intention can be summed up as follows: I'm available for a day job that respects my contract. I respect my own limits. I expect recognition and respectful communication from my future employer.

Example Bilis family:

The Bilis family has 2 daughters (aged 30 and 33) and a son (aged 27). The boy's wife, Walter, suffers from narcissistic perversion disorder; she manipulates Walter and seeks to control everything. Walter's parents worked on “How to deal with Walter's wife” and “How to support Walter in this difficult situation”.

The Bilis couple have identified how best to support Walter in this situation and how to continue to maintain good contact with all their children.

Their intention is to help and be there for their children, and to enjoy the good times.

1.            Energy follows our intentions

The more we know and act in line with our wishes and intentions, the more energy accumulates. We say: “energie grows where energie goes”.

We can imagine a magnet or magnetic field attracting the things we want and seek to create.

On the contrary, the effect also occurs in destructive situations. The longer we remain in a destructive field, the more this energy will grow too.

In Monique's case, a disrespectful and unappreciative work environment was increasing her frustration and distress by the day. Despite all her efforts and seeking dialogue, nothing changed. In coaching, she realized that she was living in a situation that opposed her intention.

Intentions must be consciously chosen. Often, awareness means wanting to see what's going on, and this can be the first step in defining what we aspire to.

Sometimes it's helpful to work out intentions with a good friend or health professional.

Liz's intention was for her girlfriend to have a healthy relationship. Even if her girlfriend chose to stay with this man for a while, Liz could maintain this intention for her girlfriend and remain open for her.

Another example is Tina, who wanted to become an artist. Her mother wouldn't grant this wish, fearing that Tina wouldn't be able to make a living as an artist.

Despite her mother's disapproval, Tina draws every night. She has bought herself books on different drawing techniques and is progressing in this field. Art is close to her heart and she devotes time to it every day.

Some people (close to us) may not share our intentions, or may oppose them. That doesn't mean we can't keep our intentions. 

As for the Bilis family, the presence of Walter's wife has been identified as a negative element. Despite numerous attempts to integrate her into the family and their openness, the woman never seemed happy, constantly criticizing and grumbling, and diffusing an unpleasant air around her.

The Bilis couple finally decided to stop inviting Walter's wife into their home. It's a choice that allows the family to live in peace and serenity.

2.            Energy multiplies where we put our attention

Energy intensifies and multiplies where we put our focus.

Monique recognizes every time when her boss crosses the line. Even if she doesn't dare say “no” every time, she realizes when a limit has been crossed. Then she talks about it with her friends and her coach to gain more and more confidence and to clarify what's going on.

By drawing in the evenings and at weekends, Tina increases her skill and motivation every day. She is preparing for a competition at art school.

With Liz's agreement, the two girlfriends consulted a counselor at an association specializing in couple manipulation. Liz now writes a secret diary in which she records all the injustices and hurts that happen to her. She realizes more and more how serious this relationship is, and how much it weighs on her.

Walter's parents can see that Walter is not happy in his relationship. At the same time, they accept his choice of relationship and don't argue about it. To preserve their good family relations, Walter's wife is no longer part of the family. A choice that pays off, as the family prepares to spend the next vacation together. The positive, enjoyable energy grows with the choice to do more of what makes them feel good.

3. The spoken or written thought takes shape and form.

The more we wish to concretize and shape this energy, the more we can express it. Communicating it verbally or writing it down are the simplest and most effective ways of accumulating energy, manifesting it and seeing intentions realized. But there are other ways of expressing it too: drawing, speaking and recording, modeling in clay or any other form of artistic expression.

Writing them down or expressing them in drawing or any other form helps our intentions grow.

In difficult relationships, the first step is to express the suffering, frustration or pain the person is experiencing. This is essential. Then we can go back to our intentions. What are my aspirations? Where is my goal? What's my next step?

You may still be a long way from that goal. But let it speak for itself. Express, write, draw where you want to be, where you find your light, where you shine.

The more we talk about it (with people who listen without judgment) and the more we express it on paper or in electronic form for ourselves (diary) or for others (articles, blogs, videos, etc.), the more this energy becomes concrete and our wishes manifest into reality. The Bilis girls have started to make a memory book after each vacation, to record the good times they've had together.

One girl makes a collage of photos of all the great family moments, which is displayed in the living room.

And yet, all is not well. Walter looks sad and very quiet. In these moments, his parents remain close and open for discussion or advice, if he wants to listen.

With each expression, we concretize our vision of the situation, not the vision of those around us who are unfavourable or against us.

Our self-esteem and self-confidence grow with every discussion and every piece of writing.

Yes, it's also important to express our lack, the actions or words that hurt us, so that we can review our desires and take the next step, or simply remain receptive.

4. Ideas become reality

On the TGV, a mother gives her child sheets of paper and markers to keep him busy and calm. When he shows her his drawing, the mother scolds her child for not drawing as she would like. The mother goes on and on about how her child is just doing his own thing and doing everything to annoy him.

The more she expresses her negative thinking, the more the child becomes a little devil who does everything to annoy his mother. The idea of a mother who thinks her son is a devil becomes more and more real, leaving her son little chance to act differently.

Liz realizes more and more how much her partner takes advantage of her. She wants to separate from him. However, a shared asset and other financial commitments together prevent her from leaving just yet. She knows she wants and needs to leave, so that her intentions can take shape. She believes in herself and knows that if she plans her departure carefully, she'll be able to separate.

Tina never gives up on the idea of becoming and earning a living as an illustrator and graphic designer. She believes in it and prepares for the start of art school every day.

Monique visualizes her ideal working environment every morning before getting up. She'll work in a calm, respectful atmosphere, surrounded by a team where everyone has their own tasks to do. Her time will be valued and her work recognized by her superior.

The next step is to look at the advertisements.

At the Bilis family, the serene atmosphere and openness of the non-directive parents and their attitude of accepting their son Walter on his way to a change triggered a small miracle.

After a big argument with his wife, Walter confided in his parents and told them how bad he felt about his relationship. At the same time, he loved his wife and found himself between two chairs. Thanks to his parents' active listening, Walter was able to broach the subject and consult a specialist in couples and narcissistic people. Walter is now consulting a therapist  to find a solution.

The laws of energy as described by Jan Engels-Smiths help us to get where we want and need to go, in order to live a happy life in line with our goals and meaning in life.

To read more on this topic:

Jan Engels Smith's book: ...

Available at www.lightsong.com

In French:

Sylvie Liger : La loi d'attractionTitle